Anger. Hurt.
Frustration. Disappointment.
When it comes to the
myriad of emotions surrounding a breakup, they can be overwhelming if
we don't find a way to deal with them. One of the most effective ways
I have found to 'get the feelings out' (and believe me, I've had to)
is to listen to music. There's something about hearing the things
you're feeling coming from someone else in 'verse form' that makes
you feel understood-'Someone else gets it'. Here are some of the
more cathartic songs I have found. Notice that I'm not mentioning any
of the 'F*** you' songs, because those are easy enough to find on
their own.
One of my favorite
'breakup songs' is 'Similar Features' by Melissa Etheridge. Here is
the chorus:
Go on and close your
eyes, imagine me there
She's got similar
features, with longer hair
And if that's what it
takes
To get you through
Go on and close your
eyes
It shouldn't bother you
You can hear and read
the rest here:
Some would say that it
has a 'F*** you' element, but I personally find it more meaningful
than that. I suppose that could be because it describes a situation I
was in-I had an ex who messed around with a friend of mine shortly
before he asked me to take him back. Whenever my friend and I would
go places together, people would think we were sisters. Either way,
the basic message is, 'Go ahead and think you'll be fine without me.
You won't'.
When she first came
out, Melissa Etheridge was considered to be rather angry in her
songs. For instance, here is another favorite of mine:
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/m/melissa+etheridge/like+the+way+i+do_20091607.html
When it comes to
'Please, please take me back', Toni Braxton does a good job in
expressing it in 'Un-Break My Heart'. Here's the chorus:
Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me
again
Undo this hurt you
caused when you walked out the door and walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
'Dear Lie' by TLC is
another good one. There are several theories about what the 'lie' is
that they're talking about. (a bad relationship, a guilty conscience,
a poor self-image someone instilled in them, etc), but the basic
sentiment of 'it's over now, you don't have any power over me
anymore' is empowering in and of itself.
Get out of my mouth
Get out of my head
Get out of my mind
Stop putting words in
my head
Get out of my mouth,
you're nothing but trouble
Get out of my life
Get outta me, outta me,
outta me,
Lie
The rest is here:
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/t/tlc/dar+lie+radio+edit_20188124.html
In terms of, “I know
you've moved on, but I haven't yet.”, there's 'Someone Like You' by
Adele:
Never mind, I'll find
someone like you
I wish nothing but the
best for you, too
Don't forget me, I beg
I remember you said
“Sometimes it lasts
in love, but sometimes it hurts instead”
“Sometimes it lasts
in love, but sometimes it hurts instead”
This one is quite the
tearjerker. The rest is here:
Hopefully you will find
these songs as helpful as I do. What are some of your favorite
'breakup songs'?
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